If your spouse likes to go to the local hotel's spa to get a professional Asian massage, then you will be happy to learn that you can give them a similar massage at home on your next date night. Pick a time when your kids are out of the house and there are no distractions, then follow these tips to give your spouse a great massage to help them relax from their hectic life:
Tip: Buy a High-Quality Massage Oil Before Your Date Night
One of the secrets to a massage that feels like it is being given by a professional is the use of a high-quality massage oil. Instead of using hand lotion or mineral oil from your medicine chest, stop at the store and purchase an unscented massage oil to use on your date night. Massage oils are designed for lubricating your spouse's skin without leaving behind any sticky or slimy residues like you will get with hand lotion or mineral oil.
Tip: Prime Your Spouse's Skin with Warmed Massage Oil Before You Begin Your Massage
Since you do not want to ruin the mood by putting cold massage oil onto your spouse's skin, you should warm it up first. The easiest way to warm the oil is to place its bottle into a bowl of hot water. The oil will be gently heated by the surrounding water.
Once the massage oil has been heated, place some onto your hand and rub your hands together to spread out the oil. With the oil evenly distributed on your hands, rub them all over your spouse's back to prime it with the massage oil. This even layer of oil on their back will make the massage feel a lot better for your spouse and it will make it easier for your hands to slide over their skin.
Tip: Use a Variety of Techniques and Encourage Your Spouse to Communicate Their Choices
Finally, you should rub your spouse's back using your palms at first. Rub gently as you loosen up the tissues nearest to the surface. As you start to use different parts of your hands and techniques for rubbing, encourage your spouse to give you some feedback on what sensations that they like and those that they do not. Plan for this ahead of time by asking your spouse to do something like moan for a sensation they like and move their hand for those they do not. This will help you to know that you are giving your spouse a great massage they will appreciate.
You could also get a couple's massage at a spa like Silver Star Spa.